Dating nerves can drive you crazy, so we are providing you with some practical tips to help make you relax the next time you go out on a date. There are all sorts of different nerves singles and we hope to target each one of you individually. Read to understand what kind of a nervous person you are and what you could do to become more cool and collective.
Word Stumbler?
Do you stumble at the words? Does it happen that every time you step up to a girl the words just do not come out and even when they do, your lack of confidence just drives the ladies away. Try some of these techniques to calm your nerves before stepping up to a potential dating partner:
- Breathing is the key. Breathing allows oxygen to run through your body to relax you a bit. So take a few long deep breaths.
- Do not practice, because if she answers something you are not prepared for you will just stumble again. However, it is good to have a general idea of what you are going to say, just not word for word.
- Have a focus point and I have to emphasize NOT HER BREASTS! Dating is complicated. So in order to help your mind from going crazy, we recommend having a focus point slightly behind the person you are talking to. So as you talk, you keep your thoughts from running away by focusing.
- Do not talk to her, talk to the object. As you are focusing on something else, you could also pretend that you are talking to that object so that way you aren't as nervous.
Speechless
This is the type of person that has nothing to say. You always fee like it is your responsibility to keep the conversation going, but can never think of what to say to get good
matchmaking. Try these dating tricks out to keep both of you taking:
- It is ok to have a list of topics on your mind before you go out on the date.
- Avoid short answer questions, like "do you have kids?" It is just a short answer that leaves you scrambling for something new to think about.
- Pick questions that will keep her talking so you do not have to. This also helps because she could say things that might spark conversations.
- Opinion questions are always good. Such as "What do you think about the ban on gay marriage?" If she gives you a three word answer then she is obviously not interesting in keeping the conversation going herself.
- Do not only depend on yourself. This is also her job, so stop being a nervous wreck about it.
Saying Good Night
This person usually gets dates and keeps them going but gets super freaked when the night ends. He never knows how to react, if he should kiss, hug or what. Well these
dating tips are for you:
- First of all, learn to read your date. If she had a good time she might want to be kissed. But if it really makes you that nervous, avoid it all together. If it was a good night there will always be a second dating escapade with the person and you could through a smooch in there.
- Nerves are what are going to kill you so relax and try not to think about it. Most girls these days are fine with a kiss on the cheek. So, very slowly and smoothly just lay it on her. They will also appreciate the fact that you did not try and kiss them on the very first date.
- Never initiate sex on the first date. If at all, let her do it. That way you never come out like a pervert. If she wants it, she will let you know.
We hope that these dating tips will help some of you nervous dudes out there get a little calmer when it comes to what part of dating you are actually nervous about. Just remember,
your date is a person just like you, no better no worse. You have to loose the fear of rejection before you could loose your nerves since that is where most of the nerves come from anyway.